How to Prepare Kids for a Long-Distance Move
Children can be especially affected by a long-distance move. After all, they’ll be leaving everything they know to move to a new place where they don’t know anyone. Kids are likely to find the experience somewhat frightening, but there’s may also be a side of them that will find it exciting. It’s important to cultivate their excited side, while discussing their fears with them. Talking to your kids is easily the biggest way a parent can help make a move easier on their kids.
You’ll want to figuratively keep the door open. Your children need to know they can come to you regarding any of their concerns. If they see you stressed, working hard to clean and pack, they may not feel totally comfortable discussing the move with you. Sit your kids down and ask them point blank if they have any questions or feelings about the move. If they’re not ready to talk, be clear when you let them know you’ll make time to have this talk. Chances are, they’ll pipe up right away and you can work to relieve some of their stress.
Getting Kids to Pack
If children are really against a move, they may begin to act out. If a child is refusing to help clean up their room and pack their own belongings, it’s time to take a step back from the moving process and sit down with your kids. It’s more than likely you’ll find their aversion to packing is coming from their fear of moving. Ask them what bothers them most about moving.
If they’re worried about leaving their friends behind, do your best to help your child collect the phone numbers and addresses of the people they don’t want to lose. You could even write a letter to your child’s teacher, because it’s likely the teacher will allow for some kind of farewell celebration in the classroom. This is going to make your child feel special and excited about the new move. If the school won’t get involved, have a little celebration at home. When your kid is assured by his or her family and friends that they won’t be forgotten, they’re likely to take a bigger role in moving.
If your child’s unwillingness to assist in the move is due to laziness, you may want to try to make the experience more fun. Try letting your child take a more productive role in packing, like allowing them to call up your local St. Louis moving companies to inquire about rates and more. You could even offer to have a garage sale and let your child know that there’s a profit to be made off old and unwanted items, but only if they help with the clean-up first.
Get Kids Involved in their New Community
Children feel connected to their communities, especially if they’ve lived there a long time. They know where the best parks are, where their friends live, and when the ice cream truck comes around. It’s the fear of not knowing that may be holding them back from embracing their new locale.
The best thing you can do is to discuss their new community, before even arriving. Go online and show your kid all the fun things that are available to them in the new place. If possible, visit the new place with your kid before the big move. Let them get a feel for the community beforehand. This will also give them exciting news to share with their friends, before the big move day. Moving may not be easy on kids, but it doesn’t have to be detrimental. At the end of the day, the best way to get your kid to relax is to talk about their emotions with them.
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