Dating and the Work-at-Home Mom
Whether you’re single and raising a family while working from home or you have a rooster in the hen house, you may have noticed that the time demands on a work-at-home mom have left you little time for dating. Although you enjoy a relatively flexible schedule in which to complete all of your daily tasks, it doesn’t change the fact that you have to care for your children and your household (you’re the designated nanny, cook, housekeeper, and chauffeur) while still finding time to squeeze in your workload. Unfortunately, that means you’re ready to collapse by the end of the day and throwing on your heels and a hot little dress for a night of romance out on the town is the last thing on your mind. However, making time to nurture adult relationships is essential to your mental and physical well-being, so here are a few ways to get the date night you need.
- Set a date. Of course the best way to ensure that you have time for an activity is to slap it on the schedule. You do it with everything else in your life, so why not dating? If you’re already married, this will allow you some much-needed private time with your spouse and if you’re single, it will give you a chance to try on your “woman” hat for the night (and leave “mom” and “sole provider” in the closet for a bit).
- Employ friends and family. The people who love you are always offering to help out, so take advantage once in awhile! You would do the same for them, and taking them up on the offer first may prompt them to employ your sitting services as well. Plus, you can feel comfortable leaving your kids in the hands of someone you know and trust.
- Find a good sitter. This can be a dicey proposition, but if you get a referral from a friend or neighbor, you could find someone who has the stamina to take on your tykes as well as providing your children with a friend who is closer to their own age (Aunt Addie is great, but she just can’t chase them around like a 17-year-old and to the horror of your kids, she’s never even heard of Justin Bieber!). Often you will pay less than other child care situations while helping a young person save for college or learn the value of a dollar earned.
- Start a co-op. You’re not the only mom looking for a way out once in awhile, so post some flyers around your neighborhood and see if other moms are interested in starting a child-sharing program that will allow everyone to have nights out with a collective of homes willing to babysit virtually for free (since the bartering chip is time).
- Stay home. If you’re married and you just can’t seem to get around to getting out the door (or sitters are hard to come by), consider staging a date night at home. Get the kids to bed, then set up a candlelit dinner or pop in a new release and snuggle up with some popcorn. The real point is to spend some quality time together, so the location is really a moot point.
Jennifer Kardish is a writer for pick-up-artist-forum.com where you can find great tips and advice on dating.
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